It's been quiet.....

too quiet, but it's part of the "new".  Mike was never loud, but.... yeah!

I've been steadily working on getting the crap under control, go thru the boxes leftover from dad's passing and hoping to get used to the way things will be. The crapdigging is slowly progressing. The living room is almost all the way visible again. Upstairs and the yard.... not so much. See the problem with emptying one space, seems to turn into filling up another. Even with donating a shit-ton of stuff, there's stuff like the photo-albums and boxes with slides, that I need to put somewhere, until I can go thru them. 

Getting rid of stuff is not the only thing that happened though.... I swapped some stuff with the neighborlady. Big-ass coffeetable for a small one and I was worried I would have to put things on the floor that usually made it to the table, but found out, I pick up what I don't use, and always have a place to put my coffeecup or my dinnerplate.... go figure!! :-) We also swapped 3 cabinets combining all the electronics for one, and one open rack for a nice cabinet. Now if I can clear the rest of the stuff around it, it will be a nice livingroom again.

After the downstairs, the dreaded part starts. Upstairs.... Two rooms is mostly rearranging and thinning out, but the room really has me pulling the other way, is our bedroom. Right now, it houses all the laundry, the christmasdecorations that we had taken from the attic, and I haven't put up or away, and some loose stuff, that was in the way downstairs, so I have a "legitimate" reason for sleeping on the couch....

No worries that all has been doom and gloom, because I've done some other stuff over the last couple of weeks too...  Reconnected with a fellow tourguide over coffee,  visited Utrecht with my big brother, his girlfriend and my nephew, signed up for a lecture on Heerlen, started on some research into a fallen Soldier my friend adopted the grave of and.... visited the zoo yesterday. And since it looks like the rain stopped, I'm going to Henri Chapelle this week and finish the pictures and questions after I mow the hayfield in the back aka the backyard. The rain and warm days were just enough to let it grow to epic height, without drying out enough to mow, all I have to do is to get some explosives to get rid of the bamboo, and I'm golden :-)

Now, about the zoo trip? Hadn't seen the baby wolverines yet, and the zoo was open late because Gaia Zoo celebrated its 20th birthday, of which I've been a cardholder for 13..... so.... had a good time yesterday :-) Oh, and I took some pictures ROFL!

Didn't go the whole day, couldn't get there quite yet, but I did go for the "friends only" part. Turns out, that part of the celebration was that the owner sold the zoo to the big zoo in Arnhem, that's been a family endeaver since it started in 1913, so it's in good hands, but it just feels weird. Kinda like your landlord sending you a letter to thank you for your continued trust and hiking the rent in the same breath :-) 

While everybody was on the square near the restaurant, I went to see my buddies, and WOW! That peace and quiet was SO GOOD a whole different feel from home....  The little ones kept the parents more active than I've ever seen them so that was interesting to watch.  They'd been fed and I couldn't figure out why the male and female took turns dragging a rabbit carcas around for more than an hour, and it finally dawned on me, after he kept walking between the kits and they eventually caught on and followed him, trying to take it away from him.... He was teaching them to follow the scent....  I shot a video of the (not so) little ones playing, and I hope it will stick, otherwise I'll have to figure a way to upload it to YouTube.... (Never saw that development coming!) I'll start with the pictures and put the video at the end, so if it goes FUBAR, I won't have to redo the picture upload. LOL! The only warning I have to give, is that it is obnoxiously loud, because of the wind, so take your headset off before you play it... I didn't and I jumped about a foot in the air :-)

 

 

One of the 3 little ones

Mama

Pops

 

 

Parental intervention..... if they don't listen, sit on them.

pile of 3

one of my favorites

no clue what this was all about, but it made me laugh

The video was a big NOPE!!  going to try YouTube and if it works leave the link below..

 

 Meanwhile, don't forget to hug a loved one a time or two?

Love and hugs,

Pauli

 

 

 

 

 

long day......

You ever heard the saying, "being brave is being scared but doing it anyway"? Well... I got brave this weekend :-)

After Mikes heart surgery, we were making plans. Tentative, knowing that what we wanted, and what he would be able to manage within the next year, might mightily differer and would differ from one day to the next, but we were making plans. Something we hadn't done in a a couple of years. We were pretty much living between appointments, so this was new to us......
 

We made a list of things we wanted to do, things we had postponed to do and things that had been on our "some day" list. We weeded out the easy things to focus on within the first 8 months, the time that stood for his rehab, with one "big thing" as a reward when he was given the All Clear. A short vacation to either Denmark or Normandy. Normandy had been his big want for a long time, so even though Denmark made the list, I was fully committed to planning for Normandy :-) I wanted him to have something good, that he had wanted for a long time, after all the crap he had to go thru over the last 6 years.

The list of "easily achived" things contained a Buhurt tournament at the castle of Teylingen, where a friend of mine is the curator, preceded by a sunup on the beach and breakfast. That tournament was this weekend.

I had spoken to several people about the fact that things we used to do together, didn't seem right to enjoy by myself, because it was "our thing" and a big part of the fun was the sharing of something we both loved, but several people expressed the sentiment, that doing  these things we had planned or talked about, could be seen as honoring our love and celebrating our life together. I mulled, as I am want to do, and decided to give it a try. I figured if it got to be really tough or I didn't enjoy it, I could leave.

So, I told my friends that I would come, and they very graciously offered me their guest room, so I wouldn't have to drive the two and a half hours twice on one day. I was floored. We knew each other from a tour at the castle. They were there for the tour, and stayed for about a 6 hour visit of talking, we got together once more and texted a bit back and forth and we just clicked, but I was floored by their generosity! They really didn't "know" me, but they still opened their home to me. It means a lot!

After figuring out what time sunup should be, how long the drive would be and packing a bag, I drove away Monday morning at 3.45 to greet the beginning of a new day on the beach accompanied by about 3 tons of butterflies and second thoughts.

I made it to the beach, but the sun never did :-) I was there just as the night sky turned lighter. I wanted to do what we used to do when we lived in Reno, and would go to the Northern California coast for a weekend.... sit on the beach, and let the sound of the waves and the feel of Mikes arms around me cocoon me. I got neither, it was raining, and there was nowhere to just "be"  and other than as a memory, Mikes arms weren't there, but somehow, it was still ok.  Not a big "HUH!" moment but another trembling baby step on this journey I wasn't ready for.  

 

 

I had a cup of coffee at a hotel restaurant while trying to dry out a little, and made my way to the tournament..... It was different from the events at the castle I used to "tourguide" at, but so interesting.  The castle is "same 'cept different" from ours. Same because it's a ruin as well, different because of the sheer history. This is not a castle connected to one family, this was a castle connected to a nations history.....   The Buhurt tournament made my head hurt, though. Man! The hits these guys took and doled out...... I'm used to exhibition reenactments. They go thru the motions, but pull their punches. Not these guys! They. Hit. HARD.  I know it sounds a bit bloodthirsty but it was awesome!!! :-)

http://www.youtube.com/@BuhurtInternational

 

https://kasteelteylingen.nl/

The knights hall. The arches are part of the cellars, The chimney was the floor of the great hall and above it were living quarters.

Chutes delivering fresh air to the cellars.

Stairs going up to the pallisades

The wall with the moat, surrounding the defendable (oldest) part and the adjoining buildings

 

The tower from another angle, with the moat

The great hall at night. knowing the propietor has its priviledges......

 

So that was my brave thing. I went somewhere we had planned to go together, and I came out ok-ish. I still have the butterflies, and writing this,  I miss him in a constant ache, but at the same time, I'm crawling toward this new normal I wasn't, and probably never will be, ready for.   I know that once the tired kicks in when I get home tomorrow that sets the feelings and thoughts free, it will be a different story.....

 

This week was no fun.........

After my fun day at Mondo Verde, taking pictures and catching up with an old friend, my week went to hell in a very tight handbasket!  Thursday, I didn't feel "right" but mostly OK. Friday I went to my ceramics class and didn't feel too hot when I got home, and within 2 hours I was sicker than I have been in a VERY long time. In between passing out I got a visit from the yard crew. I had asked them to come, to get an initial handle on it, and hopefully be able to keep up with it after.... Well, can or not, I wil have to. He was here ONE HOUR, and charged me 200€!!! I was too miserable to argue, so I paid, but I really feel like this is highway robbery at it's finest. He used my mower, came in at 6.10 and left at 6.59 ..... I don't even know of a lawyer that makes this kind of money!  Lesson learned.....

I didn't keep any food down till about Wednesday and started with white rice, graduating to bread and potatoes on Friday. Had a full meal last night, but it didn't sit well, so it's back to bland fare today....  Great weightloss plan, but I'm a little hesitant to recommend it.  

This little stint DOES mean, that I haven't been able to go back to Henri Chapelle to finish up the pictures and get my questions answered, but I was able to do a little more finetuning of questions and avenues to figure :-)  Today, I'm just hanging out, have some snacks, light meal and watch movies. After sleeping from Friday afternoon, pretty close nonestop thru Wednesday evening, I'm a little wired :-)

Hope your having a great easter. It's a little gloomy here, but it started out as a wonderful spring day, that I thoroughly enjoyed, turning cloudy around 8.30 or so.  Had a cup of tea on the back patio around 7 this morning and after hanging out all day I'm about to see if I can get interested in cooking an early dinner.  

I miss my soulmate ....... I have a big bowl of tulips next to his picture, but it is not the same, even though we generally didn't do anything special for Easter other than cook a little more fancy, it's still different from "regular". It almost feels like I miss him more with every day I have a little more time to think. Paperwork is slowly falling into place, things get arranged, and I have time to sit without working on the next problem to solve..... almost like giving my mind and heart permission to feel the loss. I guess it's the nature of things from now on.

Well, don't forget to hug those loved ones!!!

Love and hugs,

Pauli

Today was a good day.....

    Today, I went with a friend to a park he goes to a lot, just to take pictures....... So.... Pictures, we took!

It was good, we started with coffee and catching up, walked a bit, talked a lot, had some more coffee, walked, talked, repeat, all the way to closing time at 6.  I finally, around 3 this morning, got my camera off Macro, which means, I can pictures far away, with zoom, without having one colorful blur, instead of what I was aiming at. Haven't found the user manual yet, so I'm a little leary to take it off the setting it's on, because.... I made some actually cool pictures today :-)  This one has to be my favorite, but I couldn't help playing with it, so see if I can make it better....... Turns out you can make some things different, but not better. Let me know which one you like best? Can you tell the original from the "doctored" one?

 And of course these are not the only ones I took... I LOVE this setting I have the camera on right now. Of the 128 pictures, only 10 came out blurry, so I'm extremely happy.  I'll put my absolute favorites here, in no particular order :-)

That's it for me, for today. Have some stuff to do to get ready for my next round of picture taking for a friend at Henri Chapelle, military war cemetery in Belgium.... I think, with redo's I have about 60 or so memorials to photograph, edit and than post..... 

One appointment on Thursday, followed by a quick grocery-shop and I'm in until Monday :-) 

Not sure where I found this, but.... yeah! :-)

Don't forget to hug your loved ones as if there is no tomorrow, because having one is not guaranteed!

Love and hugs!